Hello from Dayre


So news broke on 9 February that Dayre would be shutting down by the end of the month, leaving its (rather tight-knit) community in the lurch. This decision was faced with a lot of backlash, with one camp of people leaving almost immediately to WeBlogIt, Steller and WordPress (why remain on a sinking ship right); and another camp of people fiercely fighting to save the platform.

I, for one, decided to abandon ship because I’ve kind of had enough of Dayre’s shenanigans. I used that platform almost daily for a year plus (can’t recall the exact months) before leaving due to the lack of privacy options back then. Fast forward to a year later (November 2017), I took the plunge and signed up for Dayre Plus after the cost was reduced substantially from $128/year (ridiculous) to $50/year. I love the community and friends I’ve made through Dayre, but the main reason I’m leaving is because Dayre didn’t want me (us) first. It’s like being in a one-sided relationship. So yup. Goodbye Dayre, hello WordPress!

(I’ve had my own dotcom for about 6 years now since 31 March 2012, but I previously hosted this site on Blogspot.)

Anyway, I’m writing about this today because I found a way to find all the ex-Dayreans!

Thanks to one Dayrean who gave us the link to this site.

Wow kudos to whoever made this tool! I can’t use it because all my Dayre posts are private, but it sure works for everyone else and I’m really happy everyone can keep their memories intact!!! Also, I realised that each post that’s exported from Dayre using the above website is automatically tagged dayre-exported.

And so hello fellow Dayreans, we meet again.

Edit: Do turn off email notifications as many Dayreans are in the queue to export all their posts (many are in the thousands because y’know – 365 days a year), and you do not want to be spammed. (Because I was, and the cleanup isn’t fun haha.)

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Hope the image above is clear enough! Just check the box right at the bottom that says “block all email updates from blogs you’re following on WordPress.com”!

Isaac’s Birth Story

19 January | 1830

I realised I was having that familiar dull lower backache while resting on Daddy’s recliner and alarm bells went off in my head, Could this be it? I decided to go shower first, you know, just in case.

19 January | 1900

Post shower, and after what seemed like endless calls of “should I, should I not” to the Hubs, we decided that it was in the best interest of baby and I if I headed to KKH just to check it out. My gut feel told me that this was it, even though part of me didn’t want to deliver so soon! It was a real bittersweet moment for me. On one hand, I was heartbroken because Valerie would not have all of my attention anymore, yet excited for her to be promoted to the position of BIG SISTER! I was emotional, and kept hugging and kissing her before leaving with Mummy for the hospital.

19 January | 2000

After dinner, we Grab Hitched down to KKH and I checked myself into the Delivery Suite to be monitored.

19 January | 2230

There was a lack of Gynaes on duty at the Delivery Suite because it was a Friday night. I waited for a good two hours or more, before the Gynae on call came by to check on me. As usual, a VE was performed and guess what – 2cm dilated, which is only 1cm away from active labour! I was given a choice. One, to go home and continue the waiting game; or two, to be admitted and wait for labour to begin. I chose the latter, and was wheeled up to the Ward to spend the night.

20 January | 0750

Another VE was conducted during the morning Ward rounds and… 3cm!!! Labour was progressing,

20 January | 0835

Contractions started and a CTG was set up to monitor the frequency of my contractions. They were irregular then, but uncomfortable nonetheless. And if I learnt anything from my first labour experience, it was to have my epidural put in before my waterbag burst! So… I did just that and requested for my epidural when I was only 3cm dilated. However, I was told that the epidural could only be administered in the Delivery Suite as it was considered a surgical procedure, but the Delivery Suite was… “TERRIBLY FULL”. One nurse even told me that I had to labour in the Ward, and then get sent down when the pain got “UNBEARABLE” as an “emergency case”. You kidding me?!? Fortunately, I had the cutest little visitor who made the pain and anxiety dissipate for just a little bit.


20 January | 1450

There was finally a room available in the Delivery Suite so I was wheeled down. Got gowned up and waited for my midwife.

20 January | 1545

Was IV-ed by then. The horrendous epidural procedure also began. I was looking forward to the pain-free labour that my epidural promised, but I will always and forever hate the process. Thank God the anaesthetist allowed Hubs to stay with me (some don’t – we were fortunate in that sense), because I was so scared I was drenched in cold sweat even before I was injected. The pain from this (you’re injected into your spinal cord, hello) and the numbing sensation I felt thereafter was something I hadn’t felt when I was giving birth to my firstborn. Maybe I was too far along when I had my epidural administered back in 2016, but this time, the pain was INTENSE and I had PAINFUL PINS AND NEEDLES from my butt all the way down to my feet for 5 hours straight. It was nothing short of terrifying, no kidding. I wasn’t in pain, thanks to the anaesthesia, but I was in constant discomfort!

20 January | 1730

Surgical induction of labour, or more commonly understood as the manual breaking of water bag (amniotic sac). Didn’t feel anything because of my choice of pain relief.

20 January | 1915

We were told that my contractions were really irregular, and that was what was causing labour to progress so slowly. Too slowly, in fact, as I had been stuck at 3cm for a good 12 hours! The Gynae then administered a drug intravenously to improve and strengthen my contractions.

20 January | 2120

VE showed that I was 8cm dilated!!!

20 January | 2150

9cm dilated. As this was my second delivery, I could start pushing at 9cm instead of the full 10cm. So I began to push…

20 January | 2159

And Isaac David was out within 3 pushes!

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Birth Date: 20 January 2018
Birth Time: 2159

Weight: 3.338kg
Length: 49cm
Head: 33cm

Valerie’s Birth Story

31 March | 0945

I happened to have an appointment at KKH with Dr Theresa and Mummy and I were late! Saw the bus arriving when we were crossing the road and we increased our walking speed in a bid to catch the bus. It was after I widened my strides that I felt intense pain in my pelvic area.

31 March | 1000

We alighted at the bus stop opposite KKH as per usual. The pain was intensifying as I crossed the road to the hospital. Got Mummy to wheel me up to Clinic G in a wheelchair as I no longer could walk without grimacing in pain or stopping every few minutes. Still went ahead with my usual consult with Dr Theresa, but she recommended I get checked out at the Delivery Suite since I was at the hospital already. And so I did.

31 March | 1050

Registered myself at the Delivery Suite. CTG scan showed irregular contractions. Baby’s heartbeat was strong and responsive. VE showed that I was still dilated only 1cm. Was also made to do a comprehensive ultrasound and results were great – baby was at 3.298kg and water level was good too. All looked normal.

31 March | 1300

Gynae reviewed my case notes and recommended inducing labour for two main reasons. One, I was already at 38 weeks, in a lot of pain and couldn’t walk without assistance. Two, baby was at a very good weight of 3.298kg. The plan was that induction would be done at 6pm. I was admitted to the hospital at 2pm.

31 March | 1845

Was wheeled down from the Ward to the Delivery Suite for induction of labour to commence. Before bidding goodbye to Mummy, she kissed the top of my head and told me to be brave and that the next time we see each other I’d be a Mummy myself! Hearing that completely overwhelmed me and I thought to myself: THIS IS IT.

31 March | 1900

As per usual KKH Delivery Suite Triage protocol, I was strapped to the CTG machine to monitor contractions as well as to track the baby’s heartbeat.

31 March | 1945

The first tablet to induce labour was inserted into my cervix. Was still only 1cm dilated when this happened. Lay in the Delivery Suite to be monitored for another 3 hours to see if my contractions would intensify and put me into active labour. But nope, nothing happened. Still 1cm dilated after 3 hours.

31 March | 2245

I was wheeled back to the Ward to rest before the second tablet was due to be inserted at 2am later that night.

1 April | 1200

I finally fell asleep at midnight but was awoken only after a measly 45 minutes of rest by noises in the Ward. Soon after that, a midwife came to my bedside and strapped me to yet another CTG machine to monitor my contractions.

1 April | 0250

Was wheeled back down to the Delivery Suite for the insertion of the second tablet since I showed no progress in the past 6 hours. But this time round, I was not placed in Triage but was wheeled straight to the Labour Ward!

1 April | 0350

VE showed that I was still dilated 1cm. Waterbag was also still intact. The second tablet was inserted into my cervix. Was monitored for the next 2 hours and the Gynae even told me that if there was no progress in my labour after the third tablet was inserted, I would have to go for a Caesarean. That was scary news because I really wanted to deliver naturally!

1 April | 0500

VE showed slight improvement and I was now dilated 2cm. An IV drip was put in to ensure I was well hydrated. Back contractions intensified so much more, and I even experienced back spasms. It was bad. My contractions were apparently so close together that the baby’s heartbeat dropped as the contractions were too intense to handle. Was a critical moment for awhile, but thankfully, lying on my left helped to ease the contractions, and thus prevented further distress to the baby.

1 April | 0620

Finally rested for a bit. That hour of deep sleep felt amazing. Woke up with a slight fever, though, but it was probably from the chill of the room. It was set up like an Operating Theatre!

1 April | 0815

VE showed that I was still dilated only 2cm. Gynae told us that the plan would be to manually break my waterbag and start epidural at 10am. Hubs and I agreed.

1 April | 1000

No advancement in labour as I was still dilated only 2cm. My waterbag was manually broken by the Gynae. Pretty uncomfortable, but it was bearable. The breaking of my waterbag kick started the labour process. My contractions intensified so much and I barely survived 45 minutes of extremely painful contractions while waiting for the anesthetist to administer the pain relief of my choice – epidural. Contractions were about 2 minutes apart during this time.

1 April | 1045

A urine catheter was inserted. And the anesthetist finally arrived with my lifesaver in the form of epidural! It was honestly so so difficult to stay absolutely still during the procedure as my uterus was contracting every minute or so. Really thankful for a kind midwife who was reassuring and comforting. I was terrified and trembling to be doing this alone as Hubs had to leave the room as per hospital policy but she calmed me down.

1 April | 1150

VE which was done revealed that I was dilated the full 10cm! We couldn’t believe it. I was still only at 2cm at 10am. That means I dilated 8cm within 2 hours?!? The final waiting game began – just that this time I was waiting for the sensation to push.

1 April | 1250

I mentally prepared myself for the labour I had to do to deliver Valerie into this world. There was so much pressure down below and I was fighting the urge to push. The few minutes before I could start pushing were torturous.

1 April | 1305

I started pushing. Followed the midwife’s instructions to push when the contractions came as I was already numb thanks to the epidural! When a contraction came, I would take a deep lungful of air, and push downwards with all my might. Repeating 3 times, at 10 seconds each.

1 April | 1329

Gave one big final push as her head emerged, and the rest of her body slipped out.

1 April | 1330

And so, Valerie Kate was born!

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Birth Date: 01 April 2016
Birth Time: 1330

Weight: 3.368kg
Length: 48cm
Head: 35cm